I had to write this statement for a class today. Its probably one of the most influential assignments I've ever done. So I decided to share it!
I Believe that Happiness is a Choice
I believe in being happy. I believe
that happiness is a choice, and that at any point I can choose to be happy
because I want to be, not just because I have a reason. And sometimes that’s
not easy. In high school, all of the
seniors chose a quote to accompany their picture in the yearbook. I chose “Most of the shadows of this life are
caused by our standing in our own sunshine.” I have quickly learned if I quit
focusing on the shadows or the problems in my life, they can seem a lot smaller
than they actually are.
My mom always
told me to focus on the good things and count your blessings. There will be
times when a person is sad. And that’s okay. But figure out why, grieve, and
move on. It’s a part of life, but to wallow in your problems is a choice. I
don’t believe that your problems will go away, but not focusing on the negative
in your life will usually make things easier to deal with. Mitch Albom makes a very good point
in his book Tuesdays With Morrie: “I give myself a good cry if I need it, but
then I concentrate on all good things still in my life.”
I have met many
people who have nothing. Little money, little resources, lost their job and are
in danger of losing everything they have ever worked for. But they are
positive. They focus on what they do have, family, friends or even just faith.
And they are happy. They chose to focus on the good and their blessings. Even
when they are facing life’s biggest trials, they are still counting their
I have been in a
place before where I didn’t think I had the choice to be happy. I was very
depressed and it seemed like everyone’s life around me was way better than mine
would ever be. I didn’t know what career I wanted to pursue, I didn’t like the
way I felt, or the way I looked. I didn’t believe that I deserved to be happy.
Once I made the choice to take the responsibility of fixing myself and
concentrating on what was going well in my life, I saw a transformation in my
attitude. I envy the people who have completely embraced this concept, because
I still struggle with it. Being happy with just what I have is really difficult
for me sometimes. But it’s something that I continue to reach for.
You don’t need a
lot of money to be happy. You don’t need lots of material things to be happy.
If you think a big house and a nice car is all you need to be happy I think you
will someday realize you are mistaken. Happiness is what you make it, and
embracing exactly what you have, when you have it. Happiness is not something that
happens quickly, but over time. Being happy is a journey, not a destination,
and I choose to make that journey, even if I make a few stops along the way.